Did you know today is officially Sadie Hawkins Day?
I don’t know whether to have feminist pride in it because it was a day when women could, without reproach or shame, approach the men they wanted to date or marry . . . and that was in the days of women-as-chattel and “girls do NOT call boys on the phone” and “do NOT make the first move!” . . . or to be ashamed that we still mark such an event as unusual in any way. I mean, I never asked a boy to a Sadie Hawkins dance, although I remember our having had at least one in junior high days. I used feminine wiles on my lab partner and other vulnerable types and got myself asked to dances. That was the way to do it, back in the dinosaur era. But there were women who DID ask guys to such dances and got a “yes” and a relationship out of it. Let’s just say it all evens out.
Sometimes it is a little intimidating to make a move towards a new friendship or to welcome someone into your neighborhood. A “holiday” like this can be just the perfect excuse. You might get a lively discussion out of it if the person disapproves of the so-called holiday. You might see the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
So anyway, today’s the day for you to ask WHOEVER YOU LIKE to go to lunch with you or come over to study or join your critique group or WHATEVER. Have no shame! Don’t feel that you shouldn’t be so forward! I give you permission to ask another man, another woman, a celebrity, a PUBLISHED AUTHOR, your boss, the taxi driver, a man sitting on a park bench, a waitress . . . whoever! In fact, you don’t need MY permission! Or society’s, either.
But you knew that.